Yesterday I read an article on the ISTOÉ magazine, which brings a story about intersexual friendship, or friendship between sexes, saying that men and women CAN be friends. Well, it's kinda hard to believe. The report has substantial proof though: from thesis by academics to testimonials by so-called 'friends'.
Nevertheless, I can
really see a woman and a man relating to each other well; guys and
girls in university, lunch break at work, after work happy hour, all
good. What I notice by that is people getting along, I don't see them
as guys and girls struggling to get along or suppressing feelings and
stuff, of course. However, the magazine stated, the way I see things,
it wasn't the norm until the II Great War, or more recently, in the
70s, when women reached the job market.
Since women have become
independent, voted, started to work, or driven cars, then guys and
girls started to relate more to each other, before that, girls would
just meet brothers, priests and that's it. I haven't seen things that
way before.
The thing is, apart
from circles of friends at work, university, school and so on, a sole
guy and girl, by themselves, as a guy x guy or girl x girl, it's hard
to imagine. I have seen girls refusing to go out with me as friends,
ok, the same way, I refused to go out with girls just as friends - it
would just not work. You can go out once, twice, but after that it
gets strange.
Among the theories on
the magazine, one says there are four types of friendship between men
and women. The most common, up to 90%, says guys and girls are just
friends, no more, no less. That's what I see mostly, hence, it's what
I consider friendship between sexes. The other 10% stray into
different spheres: subjective, objective interest, and romance type
of thing. For me, then, it's not friendship, why not step ahead and
consider other things?
